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Nov. 22nd, 2013

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Friday Five

Yeah, it's been awhile....

1. What is the one household chore you don't mind?
Laundry. Something cathartic about doing laundry.

2. What is the one household chore you would happily never do again?
Washing pots and pans with baked on food.

3. What is the one household chore you had to do as a child and now make your child do (providing you have kids)?
Umm... don't have kids. Not applicable. Thank you.

4. How do you reward yourself after you've finished?
Do something I enjoy. Duh.

5. Does your SO ever help out around the house?
Umm... don't have a SO. Not applicable. Thank you.

Okay, that was slightly lame for me. But it was a nice writing exercise.

Apr. 28th, 2013

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25 Rules for Mothers of Daughters. (I did not write these)

1. Paint her nails. Then let her scratch it off and dirty them up. Teach her to care about her appearance, and then quickly remind her that living and having fun is most important.

2. Let her put on your makeup, even if it means bright-red-smudged lips and streaked-blue eyes. Let her experiment in her attempts to be like you…then let her be herself.

3. Let her be wild. She may want to stay home and read books on the couch, or she may want to hop on the back of a motorcycle-gasp. She may be a homebody or a traveler. She may fall in love with the wrong boy, or meet mr. right at age 5. Try to remember that you were her age once. Everyone makes mistakes, let her make her own.

4. Be present. Be there for her at her Kindergarten performances, her dance recitals, her soccer games…her everyday-little-moments. When she looks through the crowds of people, she will be looking for your smile and pride. Show it to her as often as possible.

5. Encourage her to try on your shoes and play dress-up. If she would rather wear her brother’s superman cape with high heals, allow it. If she wants to wear a tutu or dinosaur costume to the grocery store, why stop her? She needs to decide who she is and be confident in her decision.

6. Teach her to be independent. Show her by example that woman can be strong. Find and follow your own passions. Search for outlets of expression and enjoyment for yourself- not just your husband or children. Define yourself by your own attributes, not by what others expect you to be. Know who you are as a person, and help your daughter find out who she is.

7. Pick flowers with her. Put them in her hair. There is nothing more beautiful than a girl and a flower.

8. Let her get messy. Get messy with her, no matter how much it makes you cringe inside. Splash in the puddles, throw snowballs, make mud pies, finger paint the walls: just let it happen. The most wonderful of memories are often the messy ones.

9. Give her good role models- you being one of them. Introduce her to successful woman- friends, co-workers, doctors, astronauts, or authors. Read to her about influential woman- Eleanor Roosevelt, Rosa Parks, Marie Curie. Read her the words of inspirational woman- Jane Austen, Sylvia Plath, Emily Dickinson. She should know that anything is possible.

10. Show her affection. Daughters will mimic the compassion of their mother. “I love yous” and Eskimo kisses go a long way.

11. Hold her hand. Whether she is 3 years-old in the parking lot or sixteen years old in the mall, hold on to her always- this will teach her to be confident in herself and proud of her family.

12. Believe in her. It is the moments that she does not believe in herself that she will need you to believe enough for both of you. Whether it is a spelling test in the first grade, a big game or recital, a first date, or the first day of college…remind her of the independent and capable woman you have taught her to be.

13. Tell her how beautiful she is. Whether it is her first day of Kindergarten, immediately after a soccer game where she is grass-stained and sweaty, or her wedding day. She needs your reminders. She needs your pride. She needs your reassurance. She is only human.

14. Love her father. Teach her to love a good man, like him. One who lets her be herself…she is after all wonderful.

15. Make forts with boxes and blankets. Help her to find magic in the ordinary, to imagine, to create and to believe in fairy tales. Someday she will make her 5 by 5 dorm-room her home with magic touches and inspiration. And she will fall in love with a boy and believe him to be Prince Charming.

16. Read to her. Read her Dr. Seuss and Eric Carle. But also remember the power of Sylvia Plath and Robert Frost. Show her the beauty of words on a page and let her see you enjoy them. Words can be simply written and simply spoken, yet can harvest so much meaning. Help her to find their meaning.

17. Teach her how to love- with passion and kisses. Love her passionately. Love her father passionately and her siblings passionately. Express your love. Show her how to love with no restraint. Let her get her heart broken and try again. Let her cry, and gush, giggle and scream. She will love like you love or hate like you hate. So, choose love for both you and her.

18. Encourage her to dance and sing. Dance and sing with her- even if it sounds or looks horrible. Let her wiggle to nursery rhymes. Let her dance on her daddy's feet and spin in your arms. Then later, let her blast noise and headbang in her bedroom with her door shut if she wants. Or karaoke to Tom Petty in the living room if she would rather. Introduce her to the classics- like The Beatles- and listen to her latest favorite- like Taylor Swift. Share the magic of music together, it will bring you closer- or at least create a soundtrack to your life together.

19. Share secrets together. Communicate. Talk. Talk about anything. Let her tell you about boys, friends, school. Listen. Ask questions. Share dreams, hopes, concerns. She is not only your daughter, you are not only her mother. Be her friend too.

20. Teach her manners. Because sometimes you have to be her mother, not just her friend. The world is a happier place when made up of polite words and smiles.

21. Teach her when to stand-up and when to walk away. Whether she has classmates who tease her because of her glasses, or a boyfriend who tells her she is too fat - let her know she does not have to listen. Make sure she knows how to demand respect - she is worthy of it. It does not mean she has to fight back with fists or words, because sometimes you say more with silence. Also make sure she knows which battles are worth fighting. Remind her that some people can be mean and nasty because of jealousy, or other personal reasons. Help her to understand when to shut her mouth and walk-away. Teach her to be the better person.

22. Let her choose who she loves. Even when you see through the charming boy she thinks he is, let her love him without your disapproving words; she will anyway. When he breaks her heart, be there for her with words of support rather than I told-you-so. Let her mess up again and again until she finds the one. And when she finds the one, tell her.


23. Mother her. Being a mother - to her - is undoubtedly one of your greatest accomplishments. Share with her the joys of motherhood, so one day she will want to be a mother too. Remind her over and over again with words and kisses that no one will ever love her like you love her. No one can replace or replicate a mother's love for their children.

24. Comfort her. Because sometimes you just need your mommy. When she is sick, rub her back, make her soup and cover her in blankets - no matter how old she is. Someday, if she is giving birth to her own child, push her hair out of her face, encourage her, and tell her how beautiful she is. These are the moments she will remember you for. And someday when her husband rubs her back in attempt to comfort her...she may just whisper, "I need my mommy."

25. Be home. When she is sick with a cold or broken heart, she will come to you; welcome her. When she is engaged or pregnant, she will run to you to share her news; embrace her. When she is lost or confused, she will search for you; find her. When she needs advice on boys, schools, friends or an outfit; tell her. She is your daughter and will always need a safe harbor - where she can turn a key to see comforting eyes and a familiar smile; be home.

Jan. 3rd, 2013

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Act Two. Hearing. from Mapping

Ever consider how the ambient sounds in your office/workplace affects your overall mood?

Toby Lester did. And he mapped all the sounds in his office. He determined that the humming of ventilation system created the tonic of his office. The computer fan created a major third, which is considered a 'happy' interval. But when the microwave outside his office is on, that hum caused an augmented fourth. In the 16th Century, the Catholic Church classified the augmented 4th to be the 'devil in music'.

It's no wonder Toby had indigestion every day at lunchtime! (Actually, I have no idea if he did...)

Anyways, this was a fascinating radio segment I heard last night.
http://tal.fm/110/2

Apr. 10th, 2012

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(no subject)

Co-worker 1: How are you doing today?
Co-worker 2: If I were any better, I'd need a twin!

Jan. 27th, 2012

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Purpose of the father of the bride: show up, shut up, pay up.
-my co-worker who's daughter is having a civil wedding, a destination wedding AND a full blown church wedding in the next 6 months.

Jan. 2nd, 2012

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2011 in Review.

Since 2006, I've been doing a "Year in Review" writing exercise.  It started as a random meme that I did on a whim.  I now am glad that I started it and plan on continuing this annual exercise.  Starting this year, I will do look ahead to the upcoming year.

I had so many plans, aspirations and dreams for 2011.  Looking back, the year turned out to be nothing like that.  I have no regrets from the year.

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Nov. 23rd, 2011

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"We have met the enemy and they are us."
~my co-worker.

Nov. 4th, 2011

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Writer's Block: Just stop, already!

What’s your biggest pet peeve?

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You wage war with me if you go slow in the fast lane, then speed up once I move to the right to bypass you. AND THEN you keep pace with the car next to you. What do people get out of that? I really don't understand.

I almost purposely rammed a car into the median that did that once. It was April, 2010. My Dad had just been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer a month earlier and had been in the hospital for 6 weeks. I had left the hospital in Philadelphia and gone back to work in Washington, DC that morning. Less than 8 hours later, my Mom called and asked me to come back to the hospital. I really needed to be there; Dad had made a sharp turn for the worse and was sliding fast. And so, I started my frantic drive back north. During this drive, some ass hole decided to stone wall me. I'm trying to get to the hospital before my Dad died, and this ass hole in a black Ford 250 kept pace with the car in the right lane at something like 40 mph. When I'd switch two lanes over, the ass would speed up and keep pace with me. Seriously. What do people get out of doing this? At one point, I was so frantic, I wanted to swerve him into the median, but then I'd never get home.

After 15 miles of this, he got stuck behind some slow cars and a wall of trucks. I slipped through the wall of trucks in the nick of time. I didn't see him again.

I used to get merely agitated with such things, but now I get furious to no end and have no tolerance. Such things bring back all the frantic anxiety of that stressful night.

What do people get out of doing that?

May. 29th, 2011

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Hollywood All-time, World-Wide Box Office Hits?

An early draft of my third ToastMasters speech, given on May 24, 2011.

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May. 10th, 2011

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It's not a hill, it's a mountain!

My legs were pumping the elliptical machine to the good beat pumping through my headphones. As I take a scan of the multiple TV screens with its various programming, one TV directly in front of me captures my attention. The music video channel has really cool graphics on it. Huh. My headphones come off allowing my ears to strain for the corresponding music over the orchestral symphony of active treadmills, elliptical machines and stair-climbers surrounding me. I usually don't have a problem hearing even the faintest tune, but, try as I may, I couldn't grasp this one. My eyes stay glued to the TV, curiosity growing as the animated stories unfold and I wonder what song this is. By the time the song finishes, the machine was teetering between "Paused" and activity, that's how slow my anxiousness made me, waiting to discover the artist; I don't want to miss this! Finally! Fading into the bottom left corner appears:

I'll Go Crazy If I Don't Go Crazy Tonight.
U2
No Line On The Horizon
Interscope Records


Did I read that right?! No way! Really?! Freaking A!! I love that song! I tried bringing it up on my phone immediately, but it wouldn't load. Schtupid phone. Schtupid service. Whatever. Do I REALLY have to go home to see this?! What a bummer.



A change of heart comes slow
It's not a hill, it's a mountain
As you start out the climb


Oh, it's even more awesome with the music.
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